When we look at the past, we realize that we can choose to have faith in our own abilities, and to trust the kindness of life. Do whatever it takes to let go of the pain, instead of holding on to it as if it’s a badge of honor. Grieve, cry, write, meditate, or see a therapist, if you need to. Don’t take it out on others don’t suppress it but just sit with it. Step out of the selfish bubble of misery, and refocus on what you can do to move past the pain, not dig yourself deeper into blame and apathy. Life/God is not on a mission to smite you. Every little (or major) thing is not about you. You have enough strength to take care of yourself.ĭon’t take things way too personally. You’re more powerful than any situation-even at times when you feel broken, damaged, or undeserving. Don’t put up with situations thinking that you’re weak.
No one is more, or less, deserving than anyone else.Įmbrace your inner badass. Instead of wallowing in self-loathing and doubt, have faith in your abilities and worth. Trust that life has and will always be on your side. There is nothing you could’ve done to not fail in life. Lessons from the pastĪs the director of the present, I’d tell my past self, kindly and gently, to:
#WEBSITE THAT LETS YOU GO BACK IN TIME MOVIE#
Imagine a movie playing with the younger you as the star, and you’re the director of the movie. When we relive the past, and look for areas where we could’ve made better choices, we can consider these choices today, and not repeat the past many times over, and feel more pain. This exercise is not about regret, but more about choice. The emotional pain of the past lives with us until we face it, and deal with it. Going back in time may feel like an exercise in futility.
Hindsight is 20/20, and the past is in the past. I do regret some of the choices I made, but I mostly regret how I felt about everything–anxiety, stress, fear, and a whole lot of apathy. Would my life have turned out differently? I would’ve done all of these things and more. Instead of sinking deeper and deeper into despair, I’d choose one thing that I wanted to do, and work on it. I’d allow myself to grieve and be with the pain.Ĭhannel despair and fear into something useful. And, paradoxically, I compounded the suffering. I did whatever I could to numb the pain with more regrettable actions. I ended up enabling the same selfish and destructive behaviors.įeel the pain and not numb it. It’s not my job to help people who didn’t want to help themselves. I chose to ignore the signs and suffer for no reason, other than fear. I wasted so much time trying to save the un-savable. Not fight the inevitable, and hang on to what was. And maybe I could’ve altered my reality in a way that was more beneficial to me. This is where events are only probabilities (i.e. I have a choice, and yes I would’ve done a few things differently. Nor can I prevent war, serious illness, or prejudice.īut I can most definitely choose not to be defined by these events. I can’t force a company to keep me employed, or a relationship to last beyond its intended purpose. There are major things that I would change … if I could.īefore I get into it, let me just say that I truly believe there are events that have been encoded into our DNA (fated at the hands of God, life, karma, or evolution) and these are unchangeable-no matter how hard we try. I would be lying if I said I wouldn’t change anything. Then I stopped, and thought: Who am I kidding? I am today where I am because of the past.
Everything unfolded the way it was meant to be. When I asked myself this question, my first impulse was: I wouldn’t change a thing. Think of the pain and challenges that defined that period for you-heartache, loss, failure, shattered dreams, mistakes, regrets, doubts, fears. Imagine that you could go back 20 years (or less if you’re younger than 35).
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